Project Awesome

In Sunday School, we are exploring how to make our congregation more awesome.  A lot of fantastic ideas have been contributed, but my favorite are the ideas on pastoral care.

I think this is the most vital and rewarding place to work.  How can we let other people know how important and loved they are?  What can we do to strengthen the relationships in our community?

This week, we discussed how to best reach out to people when they are absent.  Should we call them?  Send them an email?  Is it better if they are contacted by a friend or multiple people?

What about people who have been gone for a long time?  Months?  Years?  Should we contact them?  I loved the responses here.  Sending them information to let them know what’s currently going on at church.  Updating the website so that they can have a reference to look at.  Sending a survey to see what they are interested in.  Having people who knew them give them a call.

Anyway, exciting stuff is going on and I’m looking forward to seeing the new programs and ideas that will result of this project.  I hope we can harness the momentum and become a really awesome community.

Monsters and Fear

When I was growing up, there was this book my Dad would read called The Monster at the End of the Book.  It was funny and about fear.  It was about how we are often afraid of something happening when we don’t have all the facts.

I’ve been told that most of our pain happens when we are not living in the present.  Most of the time we feel pain it’s because we are worrying about the future or because we are having regret about the past.

There is a quote by Mark Twain:

I’ve lived through some terrible things in my life.  Some of which actually happened.

I think fear naturally amplifies the worst possibilities.  This week, it played out at home.  T was worried all weekend that the kids at school would not like his new haircut.  But, today he had a great day, and they said nice haircut.

In the story, Grover tries to keep from getting to the end of the book where the monster is and finds out that he is the monster at the end of the book.

So, we should strive to be less worried and afraid and take life as it comes.  :)Mon

The grass is greener where you water it….

Synchronicity – My definition is when you have a lesson to learn, so it keeps coming up in life repeatedly until you finally take a hint.

The lesson in my life right now is Relationships take a lot of work.

There is a song by Justin Bieber of the radio right now, with these lyrics:

But the grass ain’t always greener on the other side,
It’s green where you water it

That struck a chord for me.  I’ve never been especially good at taking care of my friendships and relationships.  They exist and I like them, but learning to take the totally required steps to be a friend instead of just being friendly is an area that still needs growth.

Taking a minute to call someone, or complement them, or bake them cookies.  Or at home, to spend the time interacting with family members, or giving backrubs.

It’s easy to be lazy in relationships, but the rewards of a healthy relationship make life awesome.

Another song, that has a similar message, that I love, can be found here.  🙂

Honestly?

Exposing the real you, being vulnerable, honesty…

I found this song today, that talks about the freedom of exposing yourself to a friend and having them love you.  Love the actual you, without the masks we wear to hide ourselves.

I have a few friends that I feel loved enough to let down my walls, my guard, my mask, my protection and to just be me.  To just be.

When I became a parent, I struggled with feeling so alone.  Wanting everyone else to think I had everything together and not letting them know about the things I was struggling with.  Since then, I’ve learned how valuable friends are and if you let people inside your life, they encourage you, love you, and help you succeed.

When have you let someone know YOU?  How did it work out?